Many of you already know my story. (You can read a longer version here.)
Steve and I met in our high school library at the end of our freshman year. Sadly, I made no impression on him whatsoever. He still swears we didn’t meet until the first day of Mr. English’s chemistry class the following year. What we both agree on, though, is that we became fast friends and weathered the good and bad together from then on.
Romance wasn’t part of the picture until we were juniors. And that was a good thing.
Steve and I learned how to be friends first. If you were blessed with the same scenario, then you know what a terrific start it is to a life of marital bliss. Our deep friendship helps carry us through the less-than-blissful bits. If you dove right into romance, or have forgotten how to be friends, allow me to give you a few refresher points, taken in great part from last Sunday’s sermon. (Thanks, Matt!)
- A friend shows up.
- A friend sticks around.
- A friend pays attention, takes the initiative in meeting a need, and goes the extra mile without being asked.
- Friends pursue a common goal, and, for believers, that means—most of all—they pursue the Lord together.
And here’s a quote to ponder: “It takes great courage to be a friend.” Marriage—and all true friendships—require a willingness to be second, to love to the point of sacrifice, to open oneself up enough to speak the truth (with kindness!) and, as Proverbs 17:17 says, to “love at all times.”
Married? Be friends!
Single? Be a friend to at least a few who need your friendship and bring you joy.
Have a little extra time today? Take a moment to read all of Proverbs 17. It’s packed with good advice. You can find it right here.