I’m still in my “jelly days,” sandwiched between a generation of nearly marrieds/newly marrieds (my kids and their friends) and a delightful troop of couples already beyond their golden anniversaries (my parents and their contemporaries). Life is sweet and full as the jelly. I get to observe and learn from both groups.
Not long ago I asked my friends via Facebook to post their best words of marital wisdom with me. (If you responded, thank you very much.) I’d like to share them with you. If you’re single, you can still pick up practical tips regarding friendship, kindness, patience and compassion. In bulleted form, which barely does their eloquence justice, here is what they said:
- Explore new roads together. Have fun together.
- Hold each other up. Support equals love.
- Make each other laugh. Finding humorous moments is the fountain of youth.
- Be quick to forgive.
- Pray separately and together daily for each other and your marriage.
- Reflect God’s unconditional love in all you do and say.
- Take your marriage vows seriously. Christ has joined you together; never give up.
- Put your spouse above all others except God.
- Go on long walks. Enjoy each other’s company.
- Maintain your perspective. Worldly troubles are tiny in comparison to the path you travel together.
- Respect each other’s differences.
- Be open with one another even when silence seems simpler. “During our first year of marriage, that meant uncomfortable conflict some newlyweds may have deemed unnecessary, conversations we wanted to push under the rug and discuss at a later date. But forcing ourselves to hash out the hard things and speak up about the little things has made such a positive impact. We speak our minds in love and have our voices heard. This has set us up to work through issues as they arise and grow more authentically as individuals in our marriage adventure together.”
Couldn’t have said it better myself!